For those old enough to remember the War Games, you can probably hear that computer voice asking Matthew Broderick that question. Of course, Matthew’s character could not wait to jump right in and play “Global Thermo Nuclear War” and damn near brought the entire world to the brink of nuclear war.
While that was the movies, that line can still bring about plenty of potential destruction. Playing games with others can cause pain. And not the good kinds of pain either!
When you are approaching someone, it is best to be honest and transparent. The person you are approaching may well be into the same things you are, no matter how “twisted” you may think your own desires to be. Being open and honest about your desires and intentions allows the other person to make a clear and informed decision about how to proceed with you.
Do you need to tell them of your ultimate fantasies that you would love them to be a part of? In the beginning, perhaps not. But letting them know that you are looking for just fun, something serious or even just a pen pal is a good start.
We all change. We all grow on our journey. Sometimes you start out only wanting to have fun, but then you want something serious. Sometimes, you want something serious, only to determine you are not ready and just need a friend. In those cases, open communication usually settles any misunderstandings.
Of course, you may have already told them (we should all read profiles a bit better… you may have already been told right there), yet there are times in which the other person just did not listen. That happens.
The danger is when one is approached with a hidden agenda. Emotions and vulnerability can be damaged dramatically when one is manipulated! By being open and honest, it is the best way for you to not get hurt and to prevent hurting others.
So, the next time you hear that computer voice in your head asking if you’d like to play a game… make sure nuclear war is not on the horizon!
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