Finding the Right Fit

Its time to buy a few new pairs of jeans. The pairs I have had for a while have been great; however, they are becoming worn and need to be replaced. To make matters worse, the place I bought them from is no longer in business, and it was their own brand… that sucks!

So out I go to buy some jeans. Can’t be that hard, right? I mean, they are just jeans! Oh, but that is not the case! Now jeans come in so many cuts and styles, and each manufacturer seems to have a different measuring stick!

I come across a display and find a very nice pair of jeans. I love the color, the style and the way they look on the models in the photos… and they even have my size! Great! I’ll take a couple please. Oh… I might want to go try them on first.

Shit! They don’t fit right… too tight in the leg, too loose in the waist and worse they sorta ride up in the wrong areas. But they looked so good in the photos! Why are they fitting right? Is it me? Have I done something wrong? Do I need to change something? Or better yet, who the hell does this pair of jeans think it is, not fitting me properly! The nerve!

Ok, so I am making a point here.

I have recently spoken to a number of people that can’t seem to find the right fit in relationships, and there are a number of reactions. Am I doing something wrong? Do I need to change something? How should I act to make it work? And even the “Who the hell do they think they are anyway?” response.

What they are not realizing is that they should be happy about this!

We are all looking for the right fit, and not just in relationships. As an employee, we want to find the right job, one that we feel a part of the team and can enjoy the work… and get paid properly for what we contribute. As an employer, you want the right person for the job, someone that also works well within the culture of your company and can be trusted. In relationships, we look for someone with a compatible personality, similar goals and dreams… and an attraction that makes a spark.

So why do we get so bent out of shape when someone isn’t the right fit in in our world? Imagine taking on a job where you don’t fit. You can spend days, weeks, month or even years trying hard to “make it fit” only to find out later that it will not work out. All along you have been miserable.

If you find out that the fit isn’t right, you need to accept that and go find the right one.

So instead of walking around in a pair of jeans that ride up in the most uncomfortable places, it took some time to find them, but I found a pair that fits perfectly… comfortable, relaxing.. and well, makes my ass look good!

Same applies with the right fit in relationships. The right fit will allow you to become so much more than you are, while the wrong fit will take away from you.

When you discover that what you wanted is the wrong fit, move on. The right fit is out there and you will be so much happier not wasting your time with the wrong one!