How many times has someone looked at your life, your relationships or your decisions… and then stepped back to cry foul about how bad something looks to them?
Yep… me too.
What’s usually missed is the details. Details no one else but you and the people involved will ever know. Those intimate decisions, those countless hours in thought about the right way to go, the care taken for someone else along the way… We don’t see those, because we weren’t involved in any of that.
Instead, we see those things through our own lens, and make those judgements with the very limited information we think we know.
Side note… unless you are actually involved, no one owes you the details.
Sometimes, we even make those judgments based on what “we’re” missing out on. Such and such is stopping us from doing what we want, and that’s just not fair! Yet, even then… we don’t know all the details. Instead of maybe being happy for the people involved, and trusting that they are doing the best for themselves, we get upset that we don’t get to participate.
Here’s the thing… It’s most likely NOT what you think, and it really doesn’t matter anyway.
If it’s not your life, your relationships or your decisions… it doesn’t really matter to you. Unless somehow you are actually being harmed, it doesn’t matter. And no, “missing out” is not harming you. 😉
So before you start throwing shade someone’s way for their life and decisions, stop and think for a moment. Do you know all the details? Have you even asked for any of the details? Or are you just making a snap decision based on your own lens or desires?
Care more about your fellow human. Believe it or not, we’re all out here doing the best we can.
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