About Red
If I’m going to ask you to be real with me…
it’s only fair that I get real with you first.
Polished story or generic “look at me” highlight reel?
Nope! You’re in the wrong place.
It’s the real version… one built through falling, fighting, and burning things down I meant to build.
But, I’ve rebuilt a life that finally fits… brick by f’ing brick.
The Early Story:
Always the Outsider
Growing up, I moved constantly… new schools, new towns, always the outsider.
Red hair made me stand out. Everything else made me want to blend in.
By the time I hit adulthood, I was already carrying too much of that old weight… all of it.
Feeling invisible, unwanted, chasing connection but never really trusting it.
Married young. Divorced young. Absolutely no clue what I was doing.
Tried again… second marriage, kids, careers I didn’t choose so much as I took to survive.
From the outside, it looked like I was doing everything right. On the inside, it felt like I was losing pieces of myself faster than I could keep up.
The Breaking Point:
Another Hard Fall
Almost 40, and I found myself two divorces deep.
Now a single dad and not much to my name except anger, regret… and a life that never really feel like mine.
The hardest part wasn’t starting over. It was realizing I’d spent most of my life never truly being seen… because honestly, I wasn’t fully seeing myself either.
I didn’t hit some magical breakthrough moment. I just got tired of living a life that didn’t feel like mine.
While I didn’t know quite where I was going, or what was next… I knew one thing for sure:
If I didn’t start making real changes, my life would just be another Groundhog Day.
My breaking point – yeah, that was taking a good, hard look at me.
The Journey:
A Decade of Rebuilding
Starting over wasn’t glamorous. There were no shortcuts. No roadmaps. Just me, stumbling forward, damn near every step of the way.
It took over ten years to rebuild the life I have now. Ten years of doing the work without the guides, the mentors, or helpful insight I wished I’d had.
Ten years of figuring it out the hard way… because I refused to settle for living someone else’s story anymore.
I explored.
I learned.
I faced my anger, my insecurity… my fear.
I built relationships rooted in choice, not control.
And somewhere along the way, I stopped shrinking into the corners of my life, leaning against the wall at every moment… unsure, awkward, half-hoping nobody would notice me.
I became a man I could be proud of… A man of my own choosing. Not because life got easier, but because I got stronger… because I did the work.
Where I Am Now:
Owning It… Finally!
Today, I’m standing in it. Choosing it. Owning it.
“It” being the life of my choosing.
I’m married again, living a life full of real connection, trust, and choice.
I’m guiding my kids into adulthood with the lessons I paid for in sweat and years.
I can walk into a room with confidence, and if I want to – I can own the damn room.
I’m now fearlessly living a life that feels like mine… not one I inherited or settled for.
Look… I’m gonna lay it out for you…
– I’m not perfect. Far from it! If you want the perfect coach, look elsewhere.
– I’m not finished. Not even close! I’m not the coach that has every answer.
But I’m damn sure alive and living the best chapters of my story, not the closing ones.
The best part of my life wasn’t behind me.
It was waiting for me to claim it.
Every day, I keep claiming more.
This Is Why I Coach
I coach because I know what it’s like to feel lost in a life that doesn’t fit. I know how long and lonely the road back can be if you don’t have someone to walk with you. I know what it’s like to live in the fear of your own potential.
I coach because nobody should have to figure it all out the hard way… alone, wondering if they’re the only one who feels this way.
And I coach because I believe, deep down… nobody’s best days are behind them. They’re still waiting to be lived!
If you’re ready to stop pretending and start living life… fearlessly… in your own way…
I’m ready to meet you there.
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